Ouch! I got wicked sick, and now I’m behind on the posts I promised; I’ve got to jump into some good stuff quickly. I already had some great stuff ready to serve up today, but truth be told, I have a situation on my hands. A buddy of mine posted a long - and I mean a really @*$@%$ long - note on Facebook regarding his frustration with his ex-girlfriends and women in general. Let me provide you with an excerpt:

“Now onto some juicy and recent stuff: Some girls are just too crazy to be worth any effort. This one girl, who I am quite certain by now most of my friends are aware of her existence, maybe not the situation, but whatever, has caused me a lot of headache over the past couple of months. One day she is beyond friendly and saying how much she likes me and would like to be with me if things were different, the next, she is completely emotional and full of guilt for feeling the way she does. I liked the girl and that was probably a mistake to begin with. She has more baggage than an airport and more skeletons than [most in her closet]…it was just bad news. So we hung out and she started kissing me and of course, I kissed back. After that she has cut off all communication with me and has removed me from facebook. Naturally, I am confused as to what is going on. In the end, I don’t care anymore. She is drama, and I hate people that intentionally start it. She likes to play head-games…never play a player next time. I genuinely liked her, and would have been interested in something for the future but at this point, I doubt I would even wave at her if she said hi. If she ever does read this I’ll just give her one short reminder.”

Ouch! My friend is pissed and who can blame him? There are a variety of ways that you can look at this situation, and I want to break it down for you as succinctly as possible.

Bottom line here is this: most times, girls like this aren’t worth it. Period. I have an abundance mentality, so if I’m chasing a girl, it’s because I’m doing so out of choice, not out of the fact that I think I can’t get another girl. Therefore, when a woman freaks out on me like this and acts irrationally, I simply move on. Easy as that. Otherwise you’re going to miss that blonde sitting in the bar chair next to you, or the brunette who’s pumping gas adjacent from your car. Abundance. Abundance. Abundance. You don’t need any one girl.

Trust me: I’ve been there. It isn’t easy to just say, “Awww… f*** it.” I am not impervious to big brown eyes, tight jeans, short skirts, or any other in-your-face “good reason” to say “go for it” instead of “f*** it.” Unfortunately, when I made these mistakes, I didn’t have someone like me telling me about the shit storm that follows when you pursue a woman like this. It’s not good. It’s not pretty. And it’s nothing you want to be involved with.

Let’s imagine for a moment that the girl my friend is speaking of happens to be the girl in this photo below:

Now, this -isn’t- the girl he’s talking about, but let’s say she is for a moment. After all the crazy shit let’s say he runs into her at this pool party a week later. They get to talking. She apologizes for how “weird” she’s been acting lately, and she knows that she shouldn’t treat him that way and that she really values their friendship. Furthermore, she continues to say that she really enjoyed kissing him the other night and that, while it caught her off guard, it “wouldn’t be so bad if it happened again.” She says this as they’re laying on the ground by the pool, and she tilts her head and just-so-happens to give him the exact look she’s giving all of us right now in that picture.

Could you resist?

You better. Because while that kiss could lead to something else, and while you might enjoy it for an hour or two or even nights thereafter, you need to trust me. She will flip out again, and this time it will be even worse.

Imagine if you will that my buddy does kiss her in that moment, and that after the party they go back to her apartment and spend a long night together, catching only an hour or two of sleep. This goes on for a week. Things are great! But then, all of a sudden and out of “nowhere,” she cuts off all communication and removes him from Facebook - again. A week later he runs into her in a bar, and as he approaches her she starts screaming at him, telling him what an asshole he is and how he was just using her. She’s pointing at him. People are staring. The manager comes up and asks both of them to leave. And this is just the beginning…

Sounds far fetched, doesn’t it? I’ve been there, and it was even worse. It was really, really, really bad, and it’s hard to resist. If he’s smart, and this little situation at the pool party really does come up, he’ll be polite and enjoy the conversation but he won’t kiss her and he certainly won’t go home with her. I can’t tell you how bad this can become.

The world is full of women. Full of them! And even if you don’t think there’s enough to go around, and even if you’re in some crazy dry spell, I assure you: if you have an abundance mentality, your “luck” will immediately start to change for the better. And if you have an abundance mentality and begin to apply a few changes to your approach and lifestyle, you’ll begin to see an astronomical difference.

But let’s say that my buddy can’t resist, and indeed he does kiss her and he does go home with her. Sometimes people just can’t be talked out of these situations, no matter what is said. If you really can’t say no, tomorrow I’ll tell you how to best manage the situation should you venture into this black forest.

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