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From now through Sunday, July 19th at 11:59pm, I want you to give me your rules for communicating after that first date. Just leave your comments below! There’s a lot of confusion in this area! Should you wait three days and call? Is it okay to text immediately after the date to say you had a good time? I want your advice!
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I say text her the next date, tell her you had a great time and should do it again soon. But then again it depends if it was a blind date sort of thing or a girl you have been friends with for awhile.It always works that way and who know, you may have a better second date! Never wait too long as in 3 days because they may just move on and forget all about you and that first date you did had was history.
I don’t think there really is a rule for communicating after the first date. If you really have to make yourself wait a certain time period to reach out to someone or they think less of you because of it - it probably isn’t a great match.
I always wait a couple days before I call. They key is calling,no texts or emails,there just to impersonal.
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I say text her the next day, tell her you had a great time and should do it again soon. But then again it depends if it was a blind date sort of thing or a girl you have been friends with for awhile.It always works that way and who know, you may have a better second date! Never wait too long as in 3 days because they may just move on and forget all about you and that first date you did had was history.
definitely dont call that night… and what your texting and calling period… dont want to overdue it and scare them off!
I think the problem is men think about the rules too much and they end up blowing it. “The three day rule”–stupid. If you want to say something to her, then say it. There are plenty of ways to communicate these days-just be creative about it. :)
well, dont wake her up when your leaving (score) lol… um definitely let her know you had a great time, but I wouldn’t text.
Depends how the date went, but a ‘thanks for tonight, comment on the next date you talked about during the date’ text is a pretty good move to go with! And if not then, the next day around noon… asking how her day is going is a great move!
I call or text in proportion to how much I like them.
The more I like them, the earlier I get in touch.
It’s kinda safe to Facebook someone the next day, you know.
But I agree with Ben Rabicoff. If they are the one for you, it shouldn’t matter.
There really aren’t rules anymore.
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I think its appropriate to text or email within 3 days, to set up the next date though, defiantly need a personal phone call. Texting or emailing setting up the next date, even in the tech world we live in, not going to cut it if it means that much to you to get that second date.
Don’t leave her hanging out and waiting. If she smiles a lot and you get along together, call her up after the date
(DON’T JUST TEXT HER) and tell her what you thought about it. Make another date but let it be a surprise event. Don’t forget to keep your self looking just as good for the second date and wear something with a great smell. Women are very into scents that are pleasing to us.
IF the first date went really well, Id say send the girl a text the next morning and tell you you had a great time & would love to see her again soon. What girl wouldn’t want to wake up to a text like that =)
If she texts you back that she had a great time too & wants to see you again, CALL her(not through text) the next day & set up another date.
Dont leave a girl guessing too long- If you like her, let her know!!
If you had a great time and got a good vibe, definitely call or text the next afternoon and let your date know (this works for guys AND gals). If you text, start with the person’s name - who doesn’t like being called out by name when it’s good news :)
Reaching out the next morning seems a bit too eager, even if the date went really well. But waiting three days is a bit too long….24-36 hrs at most. You want to show you’re interested for the next date, but not appear too stand-offish or desperate.
Everyone says there is a rule of a few days, but I personally don’t believe that. If you want the girl to know that you actually care about her, don’t be afraid to just shoot her a text that night. Be polite and just tell her that you hope she had a good day… that kinda stuff
If you like someone, call them the next day! Dont e-mail or text someone as they may not check their e-mail and texting is too impersonal (cool with your friends, but not for “after the first date”). If you stick to rules like “don’t call for 3 days”, you’re going to lose her, sucka! Somebody else could very well pick up the slack in those three days and by the time you get ready to make that call, you’ve already been assigned to the “meh” pile. If she doesn’t like that you’ve called so soon, that means she doesn’t like you to begin with- so even better, you don’t waste your time.
Everyone wants to feel valued; before you part for the evening, ask your date to call or text you when they get home, so you know they got there safely. It lets them know that you care about them, and you have a chance to tell them again how much you enjoyed their company. If there was a special part of the date; the great sushi, the hysterical comic, (even if it was a mishap) mention it. That kind of attention will set you apart from the crowd; you can never, ever lose by being over the top gracious.
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I say text her or call her the next day! She would love that!! Who says anyone has to wait 3 days before calling? That’s too long. You want to make sure she knows that you’re still interested in her and likewise.
I usually text the next day and thank her for a nice evening, and that I hope we can do it again.
Start “planting the seeds” immediately at the end of the evening. Tell her you had a great time, but easy on the pushy flirting because if she wasn’t interested she might be a little sketched out. Once you get home, give her time to sleep on it and decide if she is interested or not. Girls tend to think… a lot, so give her that chance. Midway through the day after, text her a little “hey” or “whatsup” or if you want her to feel special mention something you remembered she talked about last night like for example : Back pain. throw in “hows your back? better?”
If there’s no answer stop there don’t keep pushing, she just didn’t feel it but cheer up there’s many fish in the sea. If she answered enthusiastically like : ” Awww thats soooooo sweeeeeet yu remembered, it’s actually feeling great, how have you been” Then it’s a go, give her a call and from there date number two is in the works.
I hate all the “rules” - I think honesty is the best policy right from the start. Call! If you’re the girl or the guy - just call to say thank you for a great date, have a chat and see if you can make a second date soon.
Of course on my second date my boyfriend moved in to my house! And 18 years later we’re married with two kids….so I don’t have the most experience on dating ettiquette! But good communication is always the key in my opinion…..
Forget the rules! They vary from each person anyway. And if we’re being honest we all know we’re going to throw them out in the heat of the moment. Don’t struggle with it. If you’re dying to contact someone because the date went that well, then don’t pace the floor biting your fingernails and thinking wayy to hard about it while you check your phone every 60 seconds to make sure you didn’t miss a call, text, or tweet. Just let them know you had a great time, whatever medium you choose. But do it once. Don’t go stalker and freak them out. If it wasn’t that great of a date then you won’t really struggle with deciding what to do.
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Communication is the most important; At the beginning you’ll definitely feel butterflies and be shy. Most definitely call the woman the next morning not to early not to late: remind her how wonderful she looked, what a great time you had, tell her goodmorning, and mainly talk. Get to know each other/schedules and as the conversation goes on it could possibly lead to another date.
Having communication and getting through the first butterflies is worth the feelings.
Definitely don’t wait days and not call it makes the other person feel you aren’t interested.
Keep the newness alive and stay in touch.
The same for both men and woman. Communication; give each other a call the next morning and get to talking. The only way to get through the excitment is communication. See where it goes. The worse that can happen is you both gave each other the respect by communicating and it doesn’t go any further.
Keep the newness alive and stay in touch. The relationship can continue taking steps.
The worse that can happen is you both gave each other the respect by communicating and it doesn’t go any further.
(If this happens)
You can honestly say that this is a quality to take and look for in the next dater.
… adding to my previous comment. Also, don’t hit up her wall on Facebook or tweet to her about how great the night was and blah blah. She might not be ready to make your relationship “public”. Stick to text messaging and calling, its more personal that way. Personal = better, until you build a comfortable and confident relationship.
Skywriting..always worked for me
After the first date, a text is completely fine. Sometimes it is so much easier to say things in a text than it is to call someone up. Besides, I’d much rather text a person so I have more time to think of a response than I would on a phone call. My current boyfriend won me over with a text two days after our first date so I know it is possible to win one over and texts can be personal. So text the girl/boy if you want to, and don’t feel ashamed about it!
Well you can definitely let her know you had a good time right after the date, but don’t call, @ her on twitter or leave a comment on facebook… or if you want to be a bit more intimate text her the message should be something short and sweet and sound a bit spontaneous when read, for example “Hey, I had a great time tonight ” you can end it with a thank you with a “thanxs” or a “thank you” but you might sound a tad bit desperate which isn’t to attractive. You should wait two or three days before calling her back to make more plans, you can text her and have mini conversations but refrain from calling because who doesn’t like a chase, but don’t wait to long because playing games is never fun in the end. When you call to make the plans for the second date reiterate you had a fun and your looking for more fun in a innocent-intimate way. Be a genuinely nice guy when ever you contact her and watch what you say.
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