There’s been a lot of talk this month about what goes into a first date; there’s a lot of things you have to think about. What are you going to wear? Where are you going to dinner? Is she a picky eater? What if I talk too much? What if I don’t say enough at all? Will she find me interesting? With all these things to thing about, it’s easy to sabotage yourself before you even walk out the door.
Jason from iwearyourshirt.com and I want to know what advice you have on First Dates? Leave a comment below, a little nugget of advice that you’d like to give the opposite sex. One lucky commenter will win an iPod Shuffle! You have from now until tomorrow, July 16 at 3pm EST, winner announced during Jason’s live video show.
We’ve all had our embarrassing moments, our awkward silences and even, yes, even the dreaded inopportune expelling of gas (read: fart). The best advice I can give is this:
Relax. Acknowledge what happened. Be yourself.
Be in the eye of the storm. No matter what happens, you can handle it. Be ready for something to not go “according to plan,” and when it does happen, you’ll come out smelling like roses. Or maybe you’ll end up smelling like sushi. Regardless, you’re date will be impressed you didn’t just get “pissed” like all the other guys she’s dated. :-)
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Don’t eat red onions.
just relax and be yourself. if that isn’t good enough for the girl, she really isn’t good enough for you!
I have never been on a date but my advice would be to be yourself but since you already said that I came up with some more advice…give your date an ipod shuffle and she will go on more dates with you. You dont even have to take her anywhere. If you just give her an ipod shuffle then your good.
Oh and I would love to win the ipod shuffle. Just saying.
Be you. Don’t be someone else. Don’t lie.
hmm, a little nugget of advice that you’d like to give the opposite sex? it’s going to be awkward - it’s a first date. and sometimes, the opposite sex enjoys all the awkward jump-start stalling conversations.
Drive a sweet convertible, take her to Angies, and to an extremely uncomfortable and preverted movie. :)
Be spontaneous! Don’t worry about a schedule and just enjoy your time learning about the person… and try something new together!
Don’t wear sexy underwear. This way you will not be tempted to let things go to far on the first date.
go to ART WALK downtown, then dinner @ Chew- but if you can’t stand the person during ART WALK, don’t suggest dinner! :)
My advice? It’s a first date - go along with it and have fun. After the date - do not overthink anything. That’s the worst to sit there after you left her at the door - did i say the right thing? Maybe I shouldn’t have ordered that third beer? Don’t. It’s over, and you can’t undo that.
Dont sit across the table from them. Sit next to them. This will help break the tension
Want to be less nervous on your date? Don’t choose traditional date activities. They are expensive and are full of awkward moments. Who wants to sit in a dark theatre with a complete stranger any way?
My first date with my husband we ate Pitas on the beach, checked out the floor to ceiling aquarium at the camping supply store and went to the optometrist. Yes, we fell in love over a pair of glasses.
My dating tip is to fart on the first date. Gets the akwardness out of the way from the getgo.
Listen and observe. Of course, engage in conversation and be your charming self, but you will learn so much about a person on a first date by observing their mannerisms, facial expressions, body language, and manners (especially how they treat other people, like the waiter). Listen to the tone of their voice, their responses to your questions and stories. Is she a one-upper, always trying to beat your story? Is she asking you questions in return? The conversation should be easy and engaging.
Lastly, relax and have fun.
A first date is a fresh start. Everyone has baggage but a first date isn’t the time or place to discuss your ex, your recent horrible breakup or your dating history. Make lots of eye contact and enjoy the moment without the incumbrances of the past or worries about the future.
Best advice… do well with their parents!
Hopefully chivalry is not dead. Guys treat your date with respect and be honest. Ladies, give the same respect you expect to receive and don’t play games. And no really means NO.
@Jay Mann
Hahahaha best advice yet! No does mean No…
My advice, do something that allows for conversation… a casual dinner is good, I love a chivalrous man. Don’t ask weird questions… ex. if she’s into horses and you’ve never ridden don’t dwell on the potential impact to the family jewels… it’s a turn off. I think in the summer I’d love a first date to be a minor leaque baseball game.
Wear a big hat,chicks dig big hats,
Talk a lot! Talk as much as you can so the other person doesn’t get to say anything! Drink a 6-pack before you go out to ease the tension. Discuss ex’s and how awful they were so this person won’t be like that. Oh, and always have sex on the first date, that way you don’t have to worry about the weirdness of the third date rule. Ok, ok, just kidding but, seriously be yourself and the rest will happen how it happens.
Be honest and LISTEN a lot.
Spit on them and then say “Let’s go back to my place to get out of those wet clothes…”
As many others have said, being yourself is the key. If you start off the 1st date trying to be someone you are not, you will set up the rest of the relationship for failure.
Don’t bring your mom!
Be yourself is the most important thing and try not to eat garlic just before the date !
I had a horrible date this past Friday. We met online and I traveled two and a half hours to meet him at a university where he was participating in a PhD program for the summer.
Like most women, I bought a new outfit and then had my hair cut that day. I showed up looking fabulous and even brought an obscure antiquarian text in his field of study with me as a small gift.
When it was time to go to dinner I realized that he hadn’t made reservations or even thought of a quiet restaurant to take me to. Much to my horror, he actually suggested we go to Shoney’s. After driving around in the rain, we wound up at a TGI Friday’s where we had a 30 minute wait and listened to every single Michael Jackson hit for over an hour.
Needless to say, we won’t be going out again.
My advice to guys is to make reservations or at least think about a romantic restaurant that is conducive to conversation prior to the date. It’s okay if it’s not the most expensive restaurant in town but a great dinner can make or break the evening.
Make sure to brush your teeth!
Hes some good tips straight from the “Code Master” as Jason says lol….
1.)Wear deo…Seriously, what girl is going to want to smell that bad odor coming from your armpits while she is laying there, just ewwww….
2.)Wear some sort of cologne, the ladies love it… well my lady loves it because it is a nice smell (Hollister Cologne) Not that cheap but worth the price!
3.)Dress nice, you don’t want to wear dirty pants and even some dirty underwear because you forgot to wash even though you planned this date for quite awhile! Just give yourself a forehead smack if that’s the case!
4.)Impress her by opening the car door for her or walking up to the front door to pick her up…(DO NOT BLOW YOUR HORN TO CALL HER TO YOUR CAR…jeez)
5.)Be yourself, don’t try to act like 50 cent or Vanilla Ice when you are more of an Jason Myraz type of person, it just seems wrong and she might not like that.
6.)Show your skillz! lol. Show her that you have some cool things you can do, just don’t over do it… That messes it all up.
7.)Last but not least ask about HER, don’t talk about you the whole night! You know your going to need this information for future references you already know all about yourself!
Ok there’s some advice for a first date! Please choose me for the Shuffle! I need a iPod never had one in my life!
I think in general the female wants the first date to be as normal as possible–she can sense if the guy is trying too hard and is not being himself, the less “hoopla” the better. Woman of course love to be wined and dined but that should be saved for maybe date 3 or 4. Honestly, we don’t care about how much you spend on dinner, as long as you bring us to an atmosphere where we can wear a cute dress and pumps. ;)
If the male has any unique qualities this is the time to unleash them, this is guaranteed to catch the girls eye and make a lasting first impression. e.g. How well do you handle an awkward moment? Embrace it and go with the flow! She will dig it. :)
Body language is key! Some people don’t ever pay attention to this.
Oh and bold move: Flowers! A little cliché? Yes, it can be on the first date BUT if you do it in a unique way…you will make her heart flutter. First of all: every girl deserves flowers on a daily basis. :) For the first date-never roses! Having an assortment of flowers maybe with a rose or two involved is way better! Girls like lots of colors…roses are too boring.
Over all, if you found a good one, you won’t feel the need to brag or make yourself look “baller” –your swag will just come naturally. :) ;)
For the woman:
You just need to hold onto your confidence. No matter how cute the guy is –you MUST look in the mirror and recognize what you see before he EVER will see it for himself. You’re fabulous. :)
-MissCicero ;)
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dont push your luck on the first date. take it slow. dont go all tongue crazy. or worse…
Don’t expect anything on a first date. Then you won’t be disappointed and you may quite possibly be surprised. Have a sense of humor and make eye contact. Don’t let her pay for the bill even if she offers. Lastly, HAVE A JOB AND A CAR~ ;) Good Luck.
~ Rayvencure
find out what she wants to order and order for the both. OPen the door for her..Chivalry is not dead!!
If you are meeting with a girl try to listen as much as possible. Ask questions, women love when they are listened to. As for yourself remain mysterious!
The secret to a good first date? The mid-date kiss. You heard me right. If things are going well and she’s showing you signs she likes you (twirling her hair, licking her lips, looking at your lips, etc.) wait for the right moment when you are close enough and lean in for a kiss. It might surprise her a little but if she likes you you’re making out and there’s no awkwardness at the end of the evening. 8 times out of 10 it works.
Steve! “Mid-date kiss”–LOVE IT!
You said it perfectly. :)
DONT BE STUPID!!!! Learn to read people before you enter the dating game, and if your person illiterate(like myself) then make educated guesses.
sorry, to women … Please don’t play games, thats just gonna put both of you in an awkward situation in the end
If you go to a restaurant, make sure you order food that is simple to eat and doesn’t make you look like a complete slob. For example, pasta is always a mess cause it splashes all over and isn’t to attractive to watch someone shovel into their mouth. Safe bets are chicken or anything that you can cut into smaller pieces and delicately place in your trap.
go somewhere where you’d both be comfortable and get to know each other. Restaurants are good cause there are people around. if there’s a river in town, go down and picknic. so someplace where you can people watch and enjoy each others company and not feel pressured to do one thing or the other!
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One tip is to get to know the girl your out on a date with before you start considering ideas. As in you plan on taking her to see a rock concert when she is more of an country type person. Very awkward situation for you in that case.
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Hmm….
Brush your teeth. Comb your hair. Don’t smell.
have fun
don’t have double standards and don’t have smelly breath!
All right, I agree with the “mid-date kiss”, that’s pretty useful.
I DON’T agree with #35. Don’t order my food for me. No. Don’t. You probably won’t get it right, especially if the girl is picky. Just, let her be a big girl and do it herself.
I say, you are on a date, because they liked you enough to accept. So, just keep being the same person you always are. Don’t try to change for the date, to seem better. They already like you as you. Work that angle.
And smile! Smile and laugh. Learn to laugh at yourself.
I’ve saved myself from feeling foolish by just laughing, and if the other person is laughing AT ME, I laugh then too. Everyone likes a sense of humor.
And if you have a set of dazzling choppers, you can’t go wrong. :D*
Always wear a hidden camera! If something embarrassing happens the world needs to know about it ASAP.
Do not order pasta, it’s a hassle to eat especially if your trying to make a good impression.
unless you are on a double date, don’t take, invite, or have your friends “bump into” you somewhere.
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